On Your Own Again: The Down-to-Earth Guide to Getting through a Divorce or Separation and Getting on with Your Life

Claude A. Guldner is Director of the Marriage and Family Therapy Centre
at the University of Guelph.

As a psychiatrist, Anderson has treated a number of clients in the
process of separation and divorce, which he has himself experienced. His
book is divided into sections that reflect the stages of the divorce
process: hurting, exploring, becoming you, and getting comfortable.

In section 1, the chapter on 10 common pitfalls for the newly separated
is an excellent resource in its own right. The three chapters in Section
2 address critical aspects of the divorce process: learning how to
identify and meet one’s own adult needs; dealing with an ex-partner;
and determining what the children need from the partners. Later chapters
in the book discuss intimacy and making the decision to reunite (or
not), and provide an excellent overview of the dilemmas that face the
newly divorced.

This practical and readable book serves an important function for
individuals experiencing separation or divorce, for therapists assisting
clients through the process, and for general readers seeking to
understand a very complex process.