Which Way Should I Go?

Alison Mews is co-ordinator of the Centre for Instructional Services at
Memorial University of Newfoundland.

Because many children have a special bond with a grandparent and are strongly affected by that person’s death, there is a growing body of children’s books to help them learn to accept the loss. This is another entry into this genre and is unique not only because it is set in a First Nations family but also because the message of acceptance is framed by the philosophy that the choices we make govern every aspect of our lives.

Joey and his grandma enjoy sharing a traditional song about choices and then taking turns leading the other in a rollicking dance. The song resonates with Joey and inspires him to complete his homework or go to soccer practice in the rain. When grandma dies suddenly, Joey is desolate and becomes withdrawn. However, the song and his grandma’s carefree spirit remain with him and finally motivate him to choose to accept the things he cannot change.

Kasia Charko has recreated the joyfulness of the story in her thoughtfully composed illustrations. She portrays the love shared by Joey and his grandma in their body language and fond gazes, and Joey’s emotional response to his grandma’s death is palpable. Images of West Coast First Nations abound at grandma’s house in the knit and woven patterns, as well as in the masks and totems. Her dramatic scenes provide added life to this quiet story that celebrates the legacy of love and the importance of self-determination. Recommended.