What About Me?: A Guide for Men Helping Female Partners Deal with Childhood Sexual Abuse 2nded


147 pages
Contains Bibliography
ISBN 0-921165-38-2
DDC 616.85'8369




Reviewed by Ashley Thomson

Ashley Thomson is a full librarian at Laurentian University and co-editor or co-author of nine books, most recently Margaret Atwood: A Reference Guide, 1988-2005.


In What About Me?, Grant Cameron, a columnist and municipal bureau chief
of the Ottawa Citizen, chronicles his own experiences in helping his
wife, Liz, deal with her abusive past.

So little material is available to provide support to husbands wanting
to help their partners that Grant’s book clearly fills a niche. One of
its strongest aspects is its readability. Another strength is that the
author’s experiences, while no doubt unique in themselves, are
communicated in such a way that readers will be able to relate to them.
From deciding whether to stay with his wife, to living with her through
the nightmares, thoughts of suicide, anger, sexual dysfunction, and
various stages of recovery, to dealing with family and friends, and even
confronting the perpetrator, Cameron believes the process is all worth
it, despite the frequent setbacks along the way. He provides useful tips
for coping—“Points to Remember”—in a summary at the end of each
chapter. He also suggests that all couples dealing with childhood sexual
abuse seek out a qualified therapist. For husbands wanting to help their
wives recover, this book is a good place to start.


Cameron, Grant., “What About Me?: A Guide for Men Helping Female Partners Deal with Childhood Sexual Abuse 2nded,” Canadian Book Review Annual Online, accessed June 13, 2024, https://cbra.library.utoronto.ca/items/show/2066.